Author : Diane Hale
It is… the ability to maintain one's rights while recognizing the rights of the other person depends on the skill of ascertaining a situation and responding in a way that enables you to retain your self-esteem without doing damage to the self-esteem of others. It is to be in charge of a situation by manifesting an assertive response. This response will allow space for the rights of others while maintaining our own self-worth given to you in Christ.The anger that a person has when realizing his/her own powerlessness can be exchanged for the authority in all things as he/she gains understanding of his/her position as the son or daughter of God. When we recognize that under God and in Jesus Christ we have the power to appropriate these resources and allow ourselves to be assertive. We can be "in charge" and quit shying away from acknowledging the need for personal power. "...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control..."A person becomes assertive by process: as an inner stability and security is experienced through enlightenment of individual uniqueness. This does not give us rights. It simply means, in any given situation we make our own choices. The Holy Spirit needs our cooperation to fulfill God's plan, which means "standing up and being counted." Response within a given situation is based upon truth. Therefore, we have the calm assurance that our actions are not only in keeping with God's will, but part of his overall design and purpose for our own lives and the lives to which we are relating.
Assertiveness in the context of the scriptures says, "I have a right to make my own choices, which may be negative or positive." This is free will. We utilize this right when we accept Christ as our Lord and Savior. Assertiveness becomes at this point Holy boldness.Assertiveness works because of your position in Christ, not your personality!
"… to put on the new self, crated to be like God in true righteousness and holiness" (Ephesians 4:24)How does assertiveness help me? It allows you to:Gain self-confidence and self-respectResolve conflicts and disputes of long standingExpress anger constructivelyOvercome feelings of personal powerlessness and shynessExpress assertiveness by eye contact, body posture, gesture, facial expressions, tone of voice, and timing.
And most important of all- being assertive will set you free to express affection – caring and joy!Tips on knowing how to become assertive:Focus and FlexibilityKnow your agenda and stick to itBe willing to change your mind or mind setCommunicate honestlyKnow your boundariesKnow your limitationsPractice discernmentDiane Hale is the founder and director of Unique By Design a 21st century Market Place Ministry. UBD is in the people business---helping others to discover and develop the plan, purpose and passion of their lives. Diane is an author, inspired teacher and an international motivational speaker. http://www.uniquebydesign.org
Keyword : Personal power; taking charge, authentic you, healthy choices
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